We love music in our house. Some mornings, when the kids are dragging or grumpy or just need a smile, I’ll look for fun songs on YouTube to help get everyone going. One day this week, I pulled up the Muppets’ Bohemian Rhapsody because, well, brilliant. And over on the side of the screen was a link to the movie Sing’s version of I’m Still Standing. That was our second song that day.
My littlest came to enjoy it next to me at the desk and sing along and she didn’t notice that the song brought tears to my eyes.
I’m still standin’
Better than I ever did.
Lookin’ like a true survivor
Feelin’ like a little kid….
I’m still standin’, yeah, yeah, yeah. (Original song by Sir Elton John)
For the past several months I’ve been struggling with how hard single parenting is. There is no end in sight. There is no cute prince on a white horse coming to do life with me and carry some of the load. At least not yet. And so, for now, it is all on me. Yes, I have incredible community that supports me. But the nitty-gritty details of parenting and manage a household are all mine.
This morning as I listened to this song of triumph, I felt God whisper to my heart one simple sentence: “You’re still standing.” Tears welled up in my eyes. I thought of the verse from Ephesian 6:13: “That is why you need to put on God’s full armor. Then on the day of evil you will be able to stand strong. And when you have finished the whole fight, you will still be standing.” NCV (emphasis mine)
Single parenting is a tough job and some days feel like a fight. Am I doing enough? Are they thriving? Am I compensating for the missing parenting enough that they are not going to become a statistic? Do they know how much I love them in the midst of how exhausted I am?
Single mama, do you need to be reminded of all the good you are doing today? Do you need to look around you at the battles you are winning to be reminded YOU are still standing?
You are still doing the laundry and tucking them in. You are still buying them groceries and making sure there is food on the table. You are still trying your best to teach character and letting them do fun activities when you can. You are still meeting with teachers and praying for those humans God has trusted you to raise.
You are still standing. Focus on that today, dear friend.
The fight might be hard and the road ahead seemingly endless, but God promises to walk it with us. He promises to provide us the weapons we need for the fight (see Ephesians 6). And he promises to help us keep standing strong when we trust him.
What are some ways you are still standing, doing the hard work of parenting alone? I’d love to cheer with you in the comments.
Next week: How to handle the overwhelmed feelings that you fear you just can’t do this alone anymore.
And, in case you needed a smile, here’s the song that inspired today’s blog. Enjoy.
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