It all depends on me.
That thought is a heavy one, isn’t it? I think that feeling is one of the hardest things about being a single parent. There is no back-up. There is no one to share the schedule or the routines or the decision-making. I’m it. I’m it for rules, for home maintenance, for budgeting, for meal planning, for parenting wisdom, and for all the other stuff. The buck stops here.
One of the places it is most complicated is in trying to handle the tension between work and home lives. Our society doesn’t have a great track record for supporting single, working parents. Our employers expect us to give more and more and often don’t understand that you simply have no more to give when you are the only one to attend sporting events, concerts, after-school pick-up, appointments, and just to be present in the lives of your children as their childhood slowly evaporates. Employers often just don’t get it.
So how do you handle this when you need that job? How do you juggle it all without letting your kids suffer or not doing your best as an employee? That’s a tough one. As a single mom, I’ve had to wrestle with this again and again. There are a few things I’ve discovered and determined that might help you as you strive to find a balance to this tension as a single mom or dad: